From Loyal Loser to Self-Respect Superstar

From Loyal Loser to Self-Respect Superstar

I used to be the kind of friend who’d go to any lengths for some truly sorry-ass bitches. I prided myself on loyalty—until I realized my loyalty was nothing more than a free pass for being exploited time and time again. Now, all I can feel is sheer disgust at how I let others take advantage of me.

When Loyalty Turns Toxic

Loyalty is supposed to be a virtue. But when you keep bending over backward for people who treat you like a doormat, you end up with nothing but bruised pride & a deep-seated resentment. I learned that being loyal isn’t about blind obedience—it’s about mutual respect. And let’s be honest: sometimes, respect is in short supply.

A Michigan Disaster in Kentucky

Take this one unforgettable visit, for example. My so-called best friend drove all the way from Michigan to Kentucky. I was excited—after all, we’d shared some great memories 27 years of ups & downs. But her behavior was a complete letdown. She was so damn disrespectful that it hit me: We aren't children anymore. I do not have to put up with this nonsense!
And if that wasn’t enough, she went & put her nasty fingers in my pickle jar. Yes, you read that right—my pickle jar! I mean, if you know me then you know, yuck! That moment wasn’t just a breach of trust; it was a full-on assault on my sanity & my snacks.

Embracing Self-Discovery Through Betrayal

It wasn’t all about rants & revolts, though. That betrayal, as revolting as it was, forced me to step back & re-evaluate what I was really worth. I realized that true friendship is built on respect, boundaries, & yes—sanity in the pickle jar department. It was a wake-up call to stop sacrificing myself for people who didn’t deserve my loyalty.

Advice for Fellow Exploited Souls

If you’ve ever felt like your loyalty was taken for granted, here’s what I learned:

• Set Your Boundaries: Don’t be afraid to say, “Enough is enough!” I don’t owe anyone my time or my trust if they consistently disrespect me.
• Value Yourself: Remember, being kind doesn’t mean being a doormat. Know your worth and don’t compromise your dignity for the sake of friendship.
• Laugh at the Absurd: Sometimes, life throws you a situation so absurd it can only be met with humor—like someone thinking it’s okay to stick their fingers in your pickle jar. I mean you should have seen the shit underneath her nails & she works in the restaurant industry, gag
• Let Go: It’s tough, but letting go of toxic friendships is essential for your own growth. Embrace the freedom that comes with protecting your well-being.

The Final Word

My journey from being that endlessly loyal friend to someone who values self-respect wasn’t easy. But every insult, every betrayal, and every disgusting pickle jar incident taught me that life is too short to be mistreated. So, here’s to reclaiming our power, setting our boundaries, & never, ever letting anyone treat us like the doormats we once were.